Month: January 2005

  • A Parent's Worst Nightmare!


    I just received a few emails from a cousin I haven't seen in many years. Just recently, he had asked my sister for our email addresses, knowing that this is often times an easier way to stay in contact. He is the brother of the cousin who's the Executor of the estate of my aunt who died in August of 2003. He had spent several years on our aunt's farm, helping with the cows & general farming.


    In the first email, my cousin informed me that his sister's son was killed in an avalanche while snowboarding in Idaho. He was one of 3 who'd gotten trapped by the avalanche, one of whom managed to get out to seek help. The other trapped young man was also found dead.


    My cousin's son is Peter Tripp. The story about the avalanche is near the bottom of the article here:  http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/6827473/ See the lower story about the avalanche in Idaho.


    No wonder I was feeling bad vibes since yesterday. I had never gotten to know Peter & hadn't seen his mom, my cousin, in many years.

  • I know, I haven't written in awhile. I've been in a funk again, due in part to what my friends & I saw on Christmas Day. I've started a piece on it, but haven't finished it, hoping that there would be a resolution, which hasn't come about yet. I'll post about it eventually.


    But for now, I'm going to lambaste again about forwarded emails that aren't researched, yet presented as fact. I just got one in my Inbox that's very heart-felt, bringing tears to the eyes of the reader. After reading it, I did a search on my favorite 'Mythbusters' site & found that the piece is a work of fiction.


    People, when you get forwarded emails meant to scare you or touting to be something that really happened, check out the facts first, before forwarding them on & adding your name to the 'fools list' & perpetrating lies or propaganda! In this case, it could almost be considered plagiarism, since this story has been told by many claiming that they know the individuals in the story or have claimed it as their own writing.


    Here's Snopes.com's page on the story:  http://www.snopes.com/glurge/teddy.htm


    And the story/email, written by Elizabeth Silance Ballard Ungar:



    Subject: GREAT STORY





    "This work of fiction was penned by Elizabeth Silance Ballard in 1976 and published that year in Home Life magazine. The author's intent was far from unclear -- the piece was clearly marked as fiction and was presented as such, not as an account of a personal experience." (Quoted paragraph from Snopes.com is my addition, not included in the email.)



    Long but worth it,



    As she stood in front of her 5th grade class on the very first day of school, she told the children an untruth. Like most teachers, she looked at her students and said that she loved them all the same. However, that was impossible, because there in the front row, slumped in his seat, was a little boy named Teddy Stoddard.


    Mrs. Thompson had watched Teddy the year before and noticed that he Did not play well with the other children, that his clothes were messy and that he constantly needed a bath. In addition, Teddy could be unpleasant.


    It got to the point where Mrs. Thompson would actually take delight in marking his papers with a broad red pen, making bold X's and then putting a big "F" at the top of his papers.


    At the school where Mrs. Thompson taught, she was required to review each child's past records and she put Teddy's off until last. However, when she reviewed his file, she was in for a surprise.


    Teddy's first grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is a bright child with a ready laugh. He does his work neatly and has good manners... he is a joy to be around.."


    His second grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is an excellent student, well liked by his classmates, but he is troubled because his mother has a terminal illness and life at home must be a struggle."


    His third grade teacher wrote, "His mother's death has been hard on him. He tries to do his best, but his father doesn't show much interest and his home life will soon affect him if some steps aren't taken."


    Teddy's fourth grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is withdrawn and doesn't show much interest in school. He doesn't have many friends and he sometimes sleeps in class."


    By now, Mrs. Thompson realized the problem and she was ashamed of herself. She felt even worse when her students brought her Christmas presents, wrapped in beautiful ribbons and bright paper, except for Teddy's. His present was clumsily wrapped in the heavy, brown paper That he got from a grocery bag.


    Mrs. Thompson took pains to open it in the middle of the other presents. Some of the children started to laugh when she found a rhinestone bracelet with some of the stones missing, and a bottle that was one-quarter full of perfume.. But she stifled the children's laughter when she exclaimed how pretty the bracelet was, putting it on, and dabbing some of the perfume on her wrist. Teddy Stoddard stayed after school that day just long enough to say, "Mrs. Thompson, today you smelled just like my Mom used to."


    After the children left, she cried for at least an hour.


    On that very day, she quit teaching reading, writing and arithmetic. Instead, she began to teach children. Mrs. Thompson
    paid particular attention to Teddy. As she worked with him, his mind seemed to come alive. The more she encouraged him, the faster he responded.


    By the end of the year, Teddy had become one of the smartest children in the class and, despite her lie that she would love all the children the same, Teddy became one of her "teacher's pets.."


    A year later, she found a note under her door, from Teddy, telling her that she was still the best teacher he ever had in his whole life.


    Six years went by before she got another note from Teddy. He then wrote that he had finished high school, third in his class, and she was still the best teacher he ever had in life.


    Four years after that, she got another letter, saying that while things had been tough at times, he'd stayed in school, had stuck with it, and would soon graduate from college with the highest of honors. He assured Mrs. Thompson that she was still the best and favorite teacher he had ever had in his whole life.


    Then four more years passed and yet another letter came. This time he explained that after he got his bachelor's degree, he decided to go a little further. The letter explained that she was still the best and favorite teacher he ever had. But now his name was a little longer... The letter was signed, Theodore F. Stoddard, MD.


    The story does not end there. You see, there was yet another letter that spring. Teddy said he had met this girl and was going to be married. He explained that his father had died a couple of years ago and he was wondering if Mrs. Thompson might agree to sit at the wedding in the place that was usually reserved for the mother of the groom.


    Of course, Mrs. Thompson did. And guess what? She wore that bracelet, the one with several rhinestones missing. Moreover, she made sure she was wearing the perfume that Teddy remembered his mother wearing on their last Christmas together.


    They hugged each other, and Dr. Stoddard whispered in Mrs. Thompson's ear, "Thank you Mrs. Thompson for believing in me. Thank you so much for making me feel important and showing me that I could make a difference."


    Mrs. Thompson, with tears in her eyes, whispered back. She said, "Teddy, you have it all wrong. You were the one who taught me that I could make a difference. I didn't know how to teach until I met you."


    (For you that don't know, Teddy Stoddard is the Dr. at Iowa Methodist in Des Moines that has the Stoddard Cancer Wing.)


    Warm someone's heart today. . . pass this along. I love this story so very much, I cry every time I read it. Just try to make a difference in someone's life today? tomorrow? just "do it". Random acts of kindness, I think they call it?


    This is a wonderful story, with excellent moralistic points. But please, people, give credit where credit is due & understand that it's important that it be recognized as a work of fiction, not presented as fact. The Snopes.com page about this story has wonderful information about how this story evolved. In itself, it's worth knowing! Many here on Xanga have had issues with their works being plagiarized, so I'm sure you'd understand the value of this post.

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